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The true promise of this book is of being able to change that which has been unchangeable. It challenges the reader to objectively ask "Is there some hidden need for me to not get what I want? Do I unknowingly and consistently sabotage myself?" Hide and Seek Reclaiming Childhood's Lost Potential offers an insightful answer by proposing that one's childhood may have required an adaptive survival system in response to a dysfunctional family environment. This system then becomes the sabotaging force that limits adult potential. Its power to stay hidden prevents its disclosure even in therapy. The behavior manifested by the system is often labeled by others as irrational, juvenile, or even "neurotic". Using personal stories of patients, familiar fables, core psychological information and innovative strategies for change, the book empowers the reader to examine his or her life within family patterns and offers a comprehensible approach to self-understanding and self-respect.

Hide and Seek Reclaiming Childhood Lost Potential Ditta M Oliker PhD 9781439269329 Books

Growing up in the woods in the middle of nowhere with a father much like the Woodcutter sent to cut the heart out of Snow White and bring it back as proof to the sad text book mentally ill and narcissistic, who like the Queen in the fairy tale, was my mother, sitting in front of the mirror as if saying, "Mirror Mirror on the Wall," but I AM LIVING PROOF ...a survivor. Because of the wisdom and brilliance of Dr. Ditta Oliker and every method she writes about in HIDE AND SEEK, I am a whole, healthy adult finally achieving my potential. I sought Dr. Oliker out because of her theatre background. I needed her advice. I worked in entertainment, but I just could not make myself understood. It was Dr. Oliker's relentless probing and research, eventually asking what no other ever asked, in book or theory, "How does your brain work?" "How do you think?" Dr. Oliker discovered that she had to translate my pictures into concepts via scenes from movies, plays, etc. With no case history similar she had to invent, coax and safely translate my (right brain to left) into a world I could comprehend, survive and eventually teach me how to turn pictures into tools of communication. I have been studying the PBS Charlie Rose "Brain Series" with Eric Kandel featuring panels of international brain experts, scientists, psychologists and PHD's. I liken Dr. Oliker's HIDE AND SEEK to a kind of Rosetta Stone -- it is the translator, if you will. Within the Charlie Rose "Brain Series" I see HIDE AND SEEK at the hub of a big wheel, every panel discussion in the series as a spoke of that wheel. Dr. Oliker's work has shown me that my Dyslexia and ADHD and other differences were my gifts. I am an only child having 32 immediate family members: 7 with Alzheimer's; 1 genius; 15 brain chemistry variations; 6 thyroid; 4 Narcissistic; 2 artistically gifted dozen other issues discussed on Charlie Rose. The work Dr. Oliker and I did/do for over 20 years, plus HIDE AND SEEK plus the Charlie Rose "Brain Series" puts me in a most unique position of seeing "the whole picture" first the first time in my life. Based on my personal family, environmental and chemical background, I have experienced and witnessed just how positive, effective and essentially important Dr. Oliker's work is to the scientific world, the medical professional, the practical everyday world and for every man, woman and child. Dr. Oliker gives us the "key." HIDE AND SEEK shows us where to find the Power within ourselves. Every friend I have is being given the gift of this life support and emotionally reaffirming text which I can safely predict will be a bedside reference for the rest of their lives. Dr. Oliker enables us to take the thorn of judgment out of our paws when we see the odd and eccentric behavior of family, friends and others. Childhood survival systems like hiding deep in the woods trying to escape woodcutters and others with envy die hard. Thanks to Dr. Oliker, I don't break into song with the rabbits, birds and squirrels anymore. Maybe that's why she suggested I move to the beach. I owe more than my life to Dr. Oliker; because of her patience and unwillingness to give up on me (even though I gave up on myself) my children have a mother who stopped the hereditary and dysfunctional family chain twisted links pattern. I share "survival tools" or "Ditta Wisdoms" with my children and everyone I meet. A dear friend from Norway, and recipient of HIDE AND SEEK just shared with me that one of "Ditta's Wisdoms" clarified an 18-year old family burden weighing heavily on her mind and for the first time she felt peace. If every School Principal had this book there would be no bullies. HIDE AND SEEK is a fear buster; illuminating what's really going on, even if you partially see upside down like me.

Product details Paperback 200 pages Publisher BookSurge Publishing (February 15, 2010) Language English ISBN-10 1439269327

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Hide and Seek Reclaiming Childhood Lost Potential Ditta M Oliker PhD 9781439269329 Books Reviews

Dr. Oliker, drawing on her life as a clinical psychologist, a nurturing mother and a person of the theater, has created a uniquely valuable tool to help the reader's self discovery and self improvement.

Her thesis is that stressful circumstances of one's childhood coupled with the individual's unique characteristics can lead a child to adopt a coping strategy for dealing with life -- one which can later constrain his or her full development and may even prove deeply dysfunctional. Discovering this unrecognized survival mechanism is the key step before the person can shed that restraint and then progress to realize one's potential.

The book lays out this path by example and by exercise. Case studies come to life as told through dialog. Beyond the easy reading style, I appreciated her citing the theoretical context of Darwinian survival to account for these childhood behavioral strategies, rather than nebulous constructs by the likes of Freud, or some psychobabble du jour. I would be surprised if a reader did not find helpful insights about oneself or others and did not have fun exploring this arena.
This book gave me such insight into my own family dynamics that has extended into my personal life with not only my immediate family but my friends and work as well. I highly recommend it to evryone and especially to those who have the insight to challange their belief systems and can reach deep into their own patterns to be able to accept and change their patterns to acheive lasting deep relationships.
I think Dr Oliker has a view of the human mind that opened a new area of understanding how our minds work, I was very moved by her ability to transcend old theories and find new paths to helping people heal.
Oliker knows her stuff. As clear and instructive as it is interesting and readable. I learns a lot, and it's helpful to me as a clinician.
This book has given me the ability to look at my childhood through a different set of eyes. It helped me understand and appreciate that, as a child, I did what I had to, and realize that, as an adult, the pattern I developed was detrimental to the development of my full potential. It gave me the freedom to say to myself, "Look kid, you did what you had to and you did a great job, but now I'll take it from here." Anybody wanting to better understand their family dynamics and how they fit into the drama would benefit immensely from reading this book. Thank you Dr. Oliker, for sharing your stories and making complex psychology an enjoyable, transformative and worthwhile read.
As a result of trauma or other difficult situation in our early lives we develop systems for survival. And while they may "save" us at the time, they can often return later in life, or persist in our lives, and bite us in the ass. And not only do they not help us anymore, they hinder us from moving past them. Dr. Oliker's book provides examples from real patients of how these systems of survival come about. She describes how they can hurt our development. She also offers suggestions on how to get past them. It's a fresh look at a common problem many people suffer from without knowing why. Very helpful indeed.
I found this book to be a lucid and heartfelt guide, written without psychological gobbledygook, to changing your life. The book unfolds to reveal the hidden reasons why we may have been unable to be and do what we sincerely want in life... The answer lies in "survival systems" - patterns that served us at one point in our lives, but have outlived their usefulness and now impede our moving forward. The case histories helped me see the power these `survival systems" wield. Dr. Oliker gives a clear, step-by-step path to freedom from these deleterious life-long patterns... leaving me feeling empowered in a way I had not felt before.
Growing up in the woods in the middle of nowhere with a father much like the Woodcutter sent to cut the heart out of Snow White and bring it back as proof to the sad text book mentally ill and narcissistic, who like the Queen in the fairy tale, was my mother, sitting in front of the mirror as if saying, "Mirror Mirror on the Wall," but I AM LIVING PROOF ...a survivor. Because of the wisdom and brilliance of Dr. Ditta Oliker and every method she writes about in HIDE AND SEEK, I am a whole, healthy adult finally achieving my potential. I sought Dr. Oliker out because of her theatre background. I needed her advice. I worked in entertainment, but I just could not make myself understood. It was Dr. Oliker's relentless probing and research, eventually asking what no other ever asked, in book or theory, "How does your brain work?" "How do you think?" Dr. Oliker discovered that she had to translate my pictures into concepts via scenes from movies, plays, etc. With no case history similar she had to invent, coax and safely translate my (right brain to left) into a world I could comprehend, survive and eventually teach me how to turn pictures into tools of communication. I have been studying the PBS Charlie Rose "Brain Series" with Eric Kandel featuring panels of international brain experts, scientists, psychologists and PHD's. I liken Dr. Oliker's HIDE AND SEEK to a kind of Rosetta Stone -- it is the translator, if you will. Within the Charlie Rose "Brain Series" I see HIDE AND SEEK at the hub of a big wheel, every panel discussion in the series as a spoke of that wheel. Dr. Oliker's work has shown me that my Dyslexia and ADHD and other differences were my gifts. I am an only child having 32 immediate family members 7 with Alzheimer's; 1 genius; 15 brain chemistry variations; 6 thyroid; 4 Narcissistic; 2 artistically gifted dozen other issues discussed on Charlie Rose. The work Dr. Oliker and I did/do for over 20 years, plus HIDE AND SEEK plus the Charlie Rose "Brain Series" puts me in a most unique position of seeing "the whole picture" first the first time in my life. Based on my personal family, environmental and chemical background, I have experienced and witnessed just how positive, effective and essentially important Dr. Oliker's work is to the scientific world, the medical professional, the practical everyday world and for every man, woman and child. Dr. Oliker gives us the "key." HIDE AND SEEK shows us where to find the Power within ourselves. Every friend I have is being given the gift of this life support and emotionally reaffirming text which I can safely predict will be a bedside reference for the rest of their lives. Dr. Oliker enables us to take the thorn of judgment out of our paws when we see the odd and eccentric behavior of family, friends and others. Childhood survival systems like hiding deep in the woods trying to escape woodcutters and others with envy die hard. Thanks to Dr. Oliker, I don't break into song with the rabbits, birds and squirrels anymore. Maybe that's why she suggested I move to the beach. I owe more than my life to Dr. Oliker; because of her patience and unwillingness to give up on me (even though I gave up on myself) my children have a mother who stopped the hereditary and dysfunctional family chain twisted links pattern. I share "survival tools" or "Ditta Wisdoms" with my children and everyone I meet. A dear friend from Norway, and recipient of HIDE AND SEEK just shared with me that one of "Ditta's Wisdoms" clarified an 18-year old family burden weighing heavily on her mind and for the first time she felt peace. If every School Principal had this book there would be no bullies. HIDE AND SEEK is a fear buster; illuminating what's really going on, even if you partially see upside down like me.